Sometimes, Bad Things Happen To Good People

Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. I've been there myself, and sadly, on more than one occasion. I lost my father whom I was very close to at the tender age of 16. Then, I lost my beloved mother on December 13, 2001. She suffered from emphysema and in addition had three heart attacks, diabetes, and severe allergies, so she suffered for several years before she passed away...I miss her so badly...still to this day, I have days that are tough because I miss her so much, but I try to hang on to the precious memories I have, and know that she isn't suffering anymore, and that I will see her again some day. As for me, I've dealt with depression, anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and migraines from the time I was a little girl. And I am Bipolar II. Because of those issues, along with "life"...pregnant at 17...the father I caught cheating not long before giving birth. And I've had to deal with financial struggles most of my adult life, and due to my bipolar have lost several jobs, attempted suicide three or so times (sadly I lost count), lost a live in relationship and a marriage, eventually gave up college, was evicted from my home in which I lost most all my belongings, including precious life long belongings, and lost not one, not two, but three cars, lost a home I once actually owned & there's more, but I'll stop there.

So just hang in there, take things one day at a time. Deal with each issue and problem one at a time. Prioritize the most important issues first...then work off that list. Just don't let yourself get to down or overwhelmed because that's when things can really snow ball and get worse. Get some counseling to help you through the most difficult times...there are pro-bono and sliding fee counselors out there....and the free clinics are a really great source, not just for medical, but DENTAL and counseling. Most counties offer sliding fee scale medical and dental programs too, if you don't qualify for the free clinics. Also, same with your debts...prioritize...organize and work on paying them down one at a time...file bankruptcy if you have to....I did.

For extra money...sign up with marketing companies and do demos, pr, product sampling, etc...they have jobs where you can work one day or three days in a row and pay anywhere from $12 to $24 an hour....try Advantage Sales & Marketing, NARMS or ICCDS. Apply for food stamps, apply for a free SafeLink Cell Phone, apply for heating/air assistance, be a frugally smart shopper... use coupons, rideshare...what ever you can to cut down expenses and save. Find a Goodwill & shop there inexpensively...they even have a store online. Also, join Freecycle in your area...they have a group that offers anything and everything free...first come, first serve. People post things they have available to give away...and you do the same.

I have a website that has TONS of resource links, to include: finding free clinics, dental programs, counseling, jobs, utility assistance, rental assistance, etc., etc. Resourcefully For You ... Be sure to check it out...you can find links to all the ideas I posted above and more. Just take advantage of any and all the assistance out there. I didn't mean to write this much, but I'd rather take my time and be as thorough and helpful as I can to one person, than giving 10 people a quick line of jibber jabber. Good luck to you, and again...one day, one issue at a time. And I don't know if your religious or not, but it really does help to pray and trust in God.

Pets Can Be Good For Mild To Moderate Depression

Look at this face.  How can it not make you feel better?  Pets love you unconditionally. They provide you constant companionship and that in turn combats lonliness often felt with depression. Having your pet cuddle up next to you is physically comforting and having them look up at you lovingly with those big eyes makes you feel happy. You can leave if even for just a half hour and when you come back, it's as if you've been gone for days. They jump excitingly all over you, bark and lick you making you feel important and wanted.

Having a pet can take the focus off the your problems, as your having to focus on taking care of your pet, feeding, watering, playing and walking your dog. And speaking of walking your dog, it get's you out of your house and moving phyically. Having a pet forces you to take care of another life.

So all in all, dogs can provide:

1. Unconditional love and affection
2. Redirect your focus, thoughts and mind
3. Increases physical activity
4. Reduces feelings of worthlessness and reduces isolation
   
   

    

   Dogs aren't for everyone though, so don't rush right out and buy one. Some people have never owned a dog, they didn't grow up with one and don't know what it's like to have companionship and care for a dog. Only get one if you are a dog lover. And if you are a dog lover, then you will love how they make you feel.  Do you love dogs? Does your dog help you through times of blue moods?

   

   
   

Keeping a Positive Attitude When Depression Sets In

Only you can provide yourself with the positive attitude you need at those most imperative and important times.  So how is this accomplished?  Especially if you're in a depressed state of mind. 

1. Exercise - Exercise releases endorphins in the brain and makes us feel better about ourselves.
2. Count Your Blessings - Count your blessings for the wonderful things you have in your life that you could be without.  Think of how much better off you are than some other people.
3. Take time for yourself -Think about nothing, do nothing that requires you to other than exercise, just relax.  Read, watch tv, knit, paint, do puzzles, just relax.
4. Assess your problem(s)- Think of them as challenges instead of problems, work towards finding solutions one step at a time.  Just try to look at things from a different perspective.
5. Remember that problems are temporary.-  Nothing in life is permanent, so where you are today, may not be where you are tomorrow, next month or next year.

The World is Thirsting for more Humanity

Loneliness (Humanity), depression (Mental Illness), and financial problems (Poverty) are three top issues people struggle with daily, and sadly, often are part of the leading cause in suicide today. What angers, frustrates and hurts me, is that the above issues are greatly lacking in many areas that to me are basic needs and can be more easily fulfilled than they are. And what do these basic needs include, well in my opinion, they include, but are not limited to: caring, concern, compassion, giving, sharing, sensitivity, support, trust and respect.
Seems to me, humanity has gone away, and people are more concerned with how big of a house they can have, and furnish it with the best (museum like) furniture, and drive the nicest of cars, while some of us would be happy just to have our own home or even a car, just to be able to get to a job. For shame! People worry more about their status in their society or communities, rather than their fellow, neighbor, community member or citizens that may be in pain or struggling for whatever reasons.

Most often times, people are quick to judge, quick to apologize and offer their condolences for our dire circumstances, and quick to say they will pray for us, but never are they quick in taking any action in helping. I want to know, where are the humane, compassionate, giving people of ACTION out there in the real world? I've seen them on television, on Oprah, Dr. Phil, and other various shows, but rarely have I seen them with my own eyes, when there's no television cameras rolling, no real recognition, or nothing to gain except to feel good about themselves and what they've done, and to know it's pleasing to God. And most times, when I have seen it, you would have thought it was the most painful thing for them to do, was to have to help someone less fortunate out....what a chore. Again, for shame!

Maybe if some of those more fortunate took a little more consideration, time, effort and money and helped or shared their success with those less fortunate then things would be a little better. I mean come on, do you really need that fancy house? Do you really need that expensive car and do you need three or four of them? Do you really need all those vacations? Do you really need those $100 suits, shoes, and hand bags? Do you really need that $70 bottle of perfume? For shame! I mean there's nothing wrong with a nice home, car or etc within reason. And splurging every now and then is fine, but in all honestly, most often times it has more to do with status, vanity, and self-satisfaction than anything else. And those who may not be so fortunate, but aren't exactly unfortunate either, you can do good as well, just maybe in smaller ways, on a smaller and different scale.

People just need to keep themselves more in check, and keep it real, they need to remember morals, values, compassion, love, and common decency because the world is sorely lacking those things, and is desperately thirsting for them. Even with all the new advances, techniques and technology in the world today, with each passing year, the world is becoming a harder place to exist and co-exist in. The world is thirsting for humanity.

~Kimberly

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